opinion

BDSM and ‘Buyer’s Remorse’

A recent thread on GFY, raises some interesting issues surrounding the production of adult content, and BDSM content in particular.

There is a substantial difference between doing something that you regret and being forced to do something against your will. The former is unfortunate — and we’ve all been there — but the latter is… well, often criminal.

The lesson of the ‘warning’ thread posted about Kink.com on GFY, in my opinion, is that if you have remorse about a decision or series of decisions that you have made, your best option is to suck it up and learn from the experience — not to make half-baked accusations that someone else has wronged you.

I suppose it’s possible that Kink.com and its representatives are inaccurately characterizing what took place, but the pre- and post-scene interviews clearly create a great deal of doubt as to the model’s (or, more accurately, the model’s friend’s) claims.


Oh – and there is a ‘sub-lesson’ (so to speak) to be learned here, as well: videotaping pre- and post-scene interviews is very, very wise.... ;)

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